Stories

So to start off the newly created blog I am going to share one of my stories that I believe has left the biggest impact. When I was in second grade my father divorced my mother. My mom had tried to work things out because my dad had just blurted the whole thing out one day without ever giving a notice that anything was wrong. One day he was there and the next he was gone. He did still stay in our lives but like I said I was in second grade and I felt abandoned and didn't know why my dad wasn't there when I got home from school every day. I remember when I was in kindergarten my dad would pick me up after school was over and we would go to the post office and I always got a lollipop. That is one of the happiest memories that I can remember of my dad and I from before everything changed. Recently I have figured out that it has always been a little hard for me to let people in because I was afraid that once I did they would leave and my world would be shaken upside down once again. But how should I know any differently? I've only seen that kind of strategy modeled because of my dad. I love my dad and I am glad that he is still in my life because I know that others don't have their fathers in their lives. But one that every child that's been through their parent's divorce can say that it has left some kind of impact on them. I was the oldest out of three children so when my dad told us about the divorce I knew that, that meant something was wrong (since I was in second grade I wasn't really sure what it meant but knew that something was wrong like I said before) and I didn't want to cry because I didn't want to make a scene and my brother and sister of course were younger and were probably more confused than I was. When I started to grow older I started to react differently and sometimes I would get really angry that he left and others I would cry myself to sleep. So yes it has taken me some amount of years to accept what has changed. It's not even that I didn't want them divorced because I believe that now everyone is in a better place and at least a little happier in some aspects but I still feel as if he didn't want to be apart of my family and left me. Now he is to be married to a woman in September who has two little kids and that of course started a fight. My dad was going to move further away and said that we would see him less and he sounded like it was okay when really I was scared that I wouldn't see him as much as I'd like to. That problem was resolved and a compromise was made of course but now there's the fact that he is getting a new family. That opened up the issue with myself and my feelings again, and yet again a new wave of emotions hit and I found myself crying myself to sleep again or getting really angry at the world in general. But I made it through because out of all this mess I have the greatest mother and I saw how she stayed strong and got us back on our feet after my dad left and her strength gave me strength and hope that everything would be okay. Today I am a stronger and better person because of my parent's divorce. Do I still cry or get angry? Yes, sometimes but that's how I deal with it and I'll usually give myself a day or two to reflect on how I feel and then just give myself some me time to re cooperate. Over the years I have learned how to let people in more easily and when that started I felt like a sense of pressure was lifted off of my shoulders. I could trust other people with my feelings and thoughts and that was an amazing feeling. I still am growing and learning from my past but I know that I have done everything possible to rise and get myself back on my feet. Do any of you share the same story? Or maybe even your story is totally different! If you want to share your story then post it in the comment box below! Remember no negative feedback... we are all here to support and listen to each other's stories. We are all Unbroken.

Unbroken

Lately I've been looking back on the last couple of months and I can honestly say that I have changed from the person I used to be. I've had some really good moments and I've also had my weakest ones. But it's not the issues that define us, its how we fix the issue that really says who we are. Everyone has a story, a past that is totally unique from the next person. I made this blog for all of those people who have been put through hell and worse. For those who have risen from the ground and took control of their lives and for those who are still recovering. No one is broken beyond repair and letting others know that they aren't the only ones out there with problems helps to the road of recovery. I know this from experience. Here you can share your stories without any negative feedback and support from others. I hope for anyone that comes across this blog page that it helps reassure and let you know that you aren't alone. Just as a sort of introduction I've decided to share with you the inspiration behind the title of the blog page. Unbroken is the title of the song and album by Demi Lovato. Anyone who is a fan of Demi Lovato or just watch the news knows that Demi went to rehab to help with some of her addictions. But she came out of rehab better and stronger than ever. She wrote songs based on her experience and feelings during rehab and after. Every time I listen to one of her songs from the album Unbroken I think about how Demi Lovato probably went through hell but rose from the ashes and turned her life around and that in turn makes me feel stronger knowing that if she can do it then I can too! Again I hope this blog page helps all that visits it and if you turn out to be a daily reader please subscribe so you can be updated on the blog!